Life Line Event - Gordon

Thursday, February 25, 2016

Ingrid spoke at the Life Line event last week in Gordon about her book Love Her Hate Her. Victoria, Ingrids' daughter was also present and offered plenty of information at question time. The feedback was very positive and we believe we've made a small impact on a big issue.

Thank you to the Director of Life Line, Nicola Probert.

If you want to know more you can purchase the book here.

Victoria & Ingrid

Thursday, November 05, 2015

Victoria Montgomery, 23, office co-ordinator and recovering anorexic.

"I think my attitude towards my body has been partially shaped by my mum. Growing up, she was always trying to lose weight. She would make comments like, 'I feel so fat today.' I looked up to my mum and understood that I needed to replicate her obsessive exercising and eating habits if I wanted to be like her.

I was 16 when I found Mum's calorie-counting book. I read it out of curiosity and have regretted it ever since, because calorie counting was a major factor in my disorder. I suffered from anorexia for five years. Even when I was admitted to hospital, weighing just 43 kilograms, I didn't feel skinny enough.

Mum has been the only person with the courage to openly address my issues with me. She got me help when I didn't want it. She talked to me when I didn't feel like listening. She believed in my recovery, even when I didn't.

I am a size 8 now. I feel I have a healthy body image, though I still have bad days. It's a huge adjustment going from body shaming yourself to accepting and loving yourself. Mum introduced me to the world of exercise and calorie counting but I don't blame her. I've accepted my eating disorder as mine. The main difference now is that I am my own person. I like my reflection in the mirror. I don't need to replicate my mum; I'm happy just being me."

Ingrid Montgomery, 53, counsellor.

"Prior to Victoria's illness, I was not aware how influential my own negative self-talk could be. Looking back, I can see this rubbed off, but I also think Victoria's eating disorder was enhanced by external influences such as anxiety around her final year of school.

Anorexia is a devastating experience; there's no place like it. I couldn't sleep and would sit in her room to check she was breathing. Her illness forced me to look at my own body perceptions, language and behaviours. I'm a size 10 now and my body confidence yo-yos.

I'm not overweight or unattractive, but I am naturally self-critical.

I felt a lot of guilt around Victoria's illness but I have dealt with it and feel we both have healthier body images. My book, Love Her Hate Her, tells the story from my perspective as the carer and Victoria's road to recovery. I do think you have a responsibility as a mother to lead by example. How can you expect your daughters to have a healthy attitude towards their bodies if you don't?"

Original article found here:

Anorexia and Genetics Study

Monday, June 01, 2015

A very interesting segment from Mamamia TV that Victoria and Ingrid took part in earlier this year.

Victoria Montgomery: My name is Victoria Montgomery and I’m 23 years old. When I was 16, my obsession with over exercising and controlling what I ate saw me hospitalized and diagnosed with anorexia nervosa.

Ingrid Montgomery: For me it was a very emotional, traumatic journey actually as a primary carer. At times it was very frustrating.

Dr. Cynthia Bulik: Our estimate is that about twenty eight thousand people have suffered from anorexia nervosa at some point in their life in Australia. So the anorexia nervosa genetic initiative is the largest genetic study ever to be conducted on anorexia nervosa and what we’re doing is were collecting thirteen thousand samples from people in Australia and New Zealand, Denmark, Sweden and the United States who had ever had anorexia nervosa at any point in their life.

We’re then going to compare their genomes and the genomes with people who have never had anorexia nervosa and look to see where the differences are.

Ingrid Montgomery: I’ve recently written a book called “love her hate her” which is about our journey together with anorexia nervosa and “love her hate her” stands for exactly that. She’s my daughter of course, I love her but there are times when I really did hate her and I hated the anorexia nervosa.

Dr. Cynthia Bulik: So for years parents have felt guilty. They felt blamed when their children develop an eating disorder. I think this is going to have the opposite effect. What we have seen is that parents and patients actually feel relieved when they understand that there is a genetic component.

What I tell parents is…You know, sometimes they just say to their kid: Why don’t you eat more? What I explain to them is that when we’re helping people with anorexia recover, they are fighting an uphill battle against their biology. That helps them understand why recovery is so difficult and also lift that sense of blame. They don’t feel guilty when their kids get asthma, so why should they should feel guilty when their kid gets anorexia.

Ingrid Montgomery: I do believe there is a genetic disposition in going through my own family history. I have discovered that two of my family members, my direct family members have also suffered from eating disorders.

Victoria Montgomery: To be honest, I’m not sure but with my family history with eating disorders I believe yes, there could be…could be a genetic component to it and that’s why I think people should get involved in this study.

Dr. Cynthia Bulik: What we’ve tried to do is we’ve tried to make participation really easy. So all you need to do is go up to the website and the best way to get there is just google Angi, A-N-G-I Australia. It’ll take you right there. You fill out a short survey, lasts about nine minutes and all you have to do is give a small blood sample and you could do that at your local GP or just at a path lab. And most of the time what we hear from people is they want to participate because they don’t want anyone else to go through what they’ve gone through and that’s enough to really bring them to the website to get them to fill out the survey and to roll up their sleeves for science.

Watch the video here
Anorexia Nervosa - Is it genetic?

Is Anorexia Genetic?

Wednesday, April 01, 2015

See Ingrid & Victoria share their story on Channel Ten's Eyewitness News.

Book Launch

Tuesday, March 24, 2015

On a Tuesday night in St Ives Ingrid and Victoria launched the new book 'Love Her, Hate Her'. Friends, family and clients all joined in on celebrating the challenges Ingrid and Victoria have overcome.

This honest book will help carers and parents of Anorexia Nervosa sufferers so much. You can purchase the book here.

Photos from the launch

Lighthouse Conference

Sunday, March 01, 2015

See Ingrid at the upcoming Lighthouse Conference in March 2015.

Book your tickets here:

Eating Disorders & Obesity Conference

Thursday, February 05, 2015

See Ingrid presenting at is the Australian & New Zealand Mental Health Association Eating Disorders and Obesity Conference 18-19 May 2015 Surfers Paradise.

Read more here